My FH has a 12 year old son. Good kid, no problems there. The problem is this child's mother. She has really "gone off the deep end" since their seperation. She's always going out and what not, which in and of itself isn't a big deal, but she is neglecting her son and lying to him in the process. My FH and her have a week on-week off set up for custody. She has had her son ONCE over the weekend in the last 6 (or 7) weeks. WHY? Because she has dates and partying to do...and she tells her son this! She drags him (when he IS with her) to her friends house so that she can chat and IM with men, and leaves her son to watch the friends' children. Her son has ASKED his mom to slow down, he's worried about her, and he wants some of her attention back on him...
Fair enough, right?
Not to her. She told her 12 year old he was SELFISH. That he was trying to rule her life and not allow her to have any fun. Then she told my FH (with her son standing right there) that if he (son) didn't "knock it off he isn't welcome in my house anymore."
So, you can imagine the stress level of my FH, his son...and well, me too. She is running our lives by never keeping him on her weekends because we're not going to say "no" for him coming over. Then she bad-mouths us to her son. Her son is becoming more moody as this goes on and that, of course, affects all of us. Not to mention the stress my FH is under trying to keep everyone happy and play peacemaker.
Has anyone dealt with something like this? FH is thinking we should just try to get full custody and let her go do her thing...of course, I have NO DOUBT that in a few months she will pull her head out and realize what she's done and want him back.
I'm just so frustrated and I find myself frustrated with the son when I know that NONE of this is his fault. I've found myself not wanting to even be in the house with all of us anymore because I'm so tense about it. And, I know FH and his son are the one's that REALLY need the support and love right now. I just don't know what to do!